A Broken Record

I know I am about to sound like a broken record. To be honest I feel like a broken record. I feel like this is the same thing I have blogged about a hundred times. The same issue my family has been dealing with and we continue to be dealing with..we aren’t going anywhere with it and pretty much staying in the same spot. You are probably just as frustrated hearing about it as I am talking about it. But I have to talk about it. I have to because that is what this blog is for me- it’s where I talk about Mom’s MS, the issues that result from it and sometimes it is the exact same issue but a new day.

Mom isn’t dealing with her MS.

Sister K called me this afternoon to tell me Dad was frustrated once more with Mom and her lack of initiative regarding her MS. Their new therapist suggested Mom look into juice drinks that you would make in the blender to help with her spasms. Dad thinks that turned Mom off and she told Dad she didn’t think their therapist needed to come every week. Dad listened and rescheduled for 2 weeks from now. The problem with this is Dad listened and is giving Mom what she wants.Dad had a frustrating night with Mom needing him periodically. We have talked to Dad about getting some outside help. Dad didn’t listen and hasn’t acted on this issue.

Dad then vented to Sister K about all of this. Dad did the same thing with me a few weeks ago. Sister K and I are a bit dumbfounded by the entire thing thinking we don’t know what else to say or do. We realize we are in a tricky spot. Dad doesn’t have much family to talk share this with so we are pretty much it. We don’t want to discourage him from talking to us but we are also at a loss for words or advice. We feel we have given all the advice or suggestions we can and he is the only one who can choose to act on them. It is also difficult because one week Dad is optimistic and a few weeks later he is the polar opposite. It puts Sister K and I on a bit of an emotional roller coaster, unsure of when it will stop.

Part of this may be that the relationship between Dad and Mom is husband and wife. It may be Dad admitting to himself what is happening just as much as Mom needs to admit what is happening to herself. I am not sure what needs to happen or what to even say. But I do know I am seeing the same themes consistently appearing lately. I realize this isn’t a more unique topic or unique situation. It is the same issue I have talked about many times before. But it is an issue that I need to talk about. So here I am. Trying to find a way to deal with this and realizing I still don’t have the answer or the power to do so.

Have you ever had an issue come up repeatedly in your own life that makes you feel like a broken record? Do you believe in the concept that when something gets bad enough people will change? Have you ever had a situation where a caretaker is having trouble but won’t seek the help they need? Do you even understand the phrase “broken record” because I am not sure I do?

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TV Talk

I have mentioned Mom and I are watching Dancing With The Stars this season…together but not physically together. Sister K is sort of watching as well but her participation is weakening. Dad is pretty much a “no show” at all times. But Mom and I- we are hard core.

Today I called Mom at lunch and wasn’t really sure what to talk about. So I just started talking about Dancing With The Stars. Did you watch last night? What did you think? Who do you like? Then we quickly got off the phone. It was quick and mindless but it was important. It was important because we were talking about a topic that had nothing to do with either of our lives but it was something we had in common. It had nothing to do with MS and nothing to do with my life. It wasn’t depressing but uplifting. It wasn’t deep but light.

Sometimes Mom and I struggle with the serious conversations. We struggle with discussing stories that require deep thought and analysis. This is kind of tough for me. It continues to be tough for me because it’s part of the changing nature of our relationship because of MS. I believe what Mom desires is to keep things light. Dancing With The Stars gives me some easy help in this department. It provides me with not only a light topic to talk about, but it is a light topic I enjoy talking about. I know it may not make a lot of sense but to someone who is looking for stable similarities in a relationship that is full of constantly evolving differences…this is important to me, important to us.

Do you have any easy/light conversation topics you rely on? Do you believe TV isn’t the all powerful evil force it is made out to be but can sometimes bring people together? Have you been watching Dancing With The Stars?