“It’s snowing still,” said Eeyore gloomily. “And freezing.” “However,” he said brightening up a little, “we haven’t had an earthquake lately.”
Optimism is tricky. It’s easy during easy times and hard during the hard times. Dad is someone though who radiates optimism and it shows. For the most part he is always optimistic. He is always uplifting to talk to and he always gives me the sense that no matter what’s wrong or how big the problem it’s going to be okay.
I think I tend to lean towards the pessimistic side. I tend to think why me instead of why not me. Mom getting MS hasn’t helped this very much. I have noticed even more of a tendency to focus on the negatives in life than the positives. The problem though is when I am drawn to the negative I like to stay there for awhile. My mind becomes cloudy. I can’t support others the way I would like and I especially have trouble supporting myself.
For instance Dad is trying to get a heater for our pool so Mom can use it year round. Hoping this will help her to exercise more and strengthen her muscles. After a month he was having trouble getting the city utility company to contact him about completing his request, something that would’ve frustrated me to no end. It would have made me bitter, helpless and I might have just given up. Instead he spoke with Mom’s doctor who put him in touch with the Director of the MS Society who called the city utility company who then had someone higher up personally call Dad to apologize. A lesson learned in optimism but also a lesson learned for people dealing with any disability: Keep fighting. If you aren’t being treated the way you should be call your local chapters. They are there to help you and your family members.
In relation to my Happiness Project, I have made a committment to try to find the positive in every negative. To be more specific though I am going to find 3 things each day to be optimistic about in my life. It’s a small step but I am working towards tricking my mind. Hoping if I do it enough my mind will naturally work towards the optimistic side than the pessimistic side of life. I will begin to deal with problems or situations that arise from a more half full perspective than half empty.
How do you stay optimistic? Any tricks you recommend? Do you find yourself more glass half full or half empty?